It’s been awhile since I have sat down and really blogged. In the last months I have been through such a process. It’s been a process of pruning and cleansing. I’m sure many of you can probably relate. Man, I have so much to talk about but today, I’m deciding to stick to my most recent life episode.
So as most of you know, I have had long hair my complete adult life. Thick, dark curly, many times full of frizz hair. If I could add up all the money I have spent finding the “perfect” hair product, to buying shampoo and conditioner for all this hair, I could have my house paid off. (Okay, maybe I’m exaggerating but thats how it feels lol).
I have so many stories, hair stories that is. From random people I don’t know sticking their cruddy hands in my head for various reasons (sorry that sounds mean) to being spotted from a distance with my mane. It’s incredible now that I look back and see how my hair has really been a HUGE part of my life.
Here are SOME of the funny comments I have received: (I’m sure my curly hair sisters can relate)…
Is that your real hair?
Where did you buy your weave?
How do you do that to your hair?
Are you mixed?
You got lion hair! (this is a fun one) lol
Etc.
So recently, two of my closest friends thought it was a good idea to challenge me to cut my hair. You know, try something new. Immediately I was mortified by their suggestion, to be honest, slightly offended lol. I couldn’t believe they would suggest I would cut off my voluptuous locks….are you kidding me!? Well, I have never been a people pleaser and although I really trust my friends, I tried to move on and not think much of it. About a month after, I started looking for short hair do’s but decided, it’s cute, but not for me. All the negative thoughts crossed my mind: my face is too round, it won’t look right on me, I’m too short, etc. Lets fast forward to a month ago. As my life has been in a great transition, things in my heart, soul and spirit are changing. I felt Holy Spirit bring up my hair…..”its time”. I kinda freaked out, but quickly knew that if it was God, I needed to be obedient. To the hair salon I went.
Soooo, Its been a long 2 1/2 weeks since it happened. I won’t go into much detail but for the first few days, my greatest hair fears happened. I felt like a grown up Dora the Explorer walking down the street. If it wasn’t for this being a God cut, I would of balled my eyes out for days. Instead, I quickly began to realize, I’m not my hair and my hair is not me. Gheesh. My hair is part of my reputation, but it’s not what makes me. I quickly had to go to the Lord and get my heart right from years and years of feeling an unhealthy attachment to my hair. Whenever we hold on to something with our dear life, and even get offended when asked to let go, it’s too much and possibly even an idol. eeeekkkk. Some of you may think…girl you are taking this too far….well I say….I personally am experiencing a new level of freedom in this process. It’s been umcomfy learning another layer about me but I’m open, and honestly, I don’t think the Lord is done with me yet in regards to this topic.
Oh yeah, one more thing I have learned in the last weeks is, I wasn’t the only one attached to my hair. If you could follow me and hear some of the comments and reactions I have received along the way, you may or may not be surprised but it was pretty funny. I never realized and I think I’m still getting understanding that we also can attach ourselves to others in the most interesting ways. When people change, we can get caught off guard and it can take time for us to adjust to their change.
Ahhh so fun! Anyways, I look forward to learning more about myself and learning more about what this next season of life has to bring. I believe all of us are being asked to let something go. As I have shared from this vulnerable place, in this season, God asked me to let go of my hair. What is the Lord asking you to let go of?
By the way, I absolutely love my new length.
Isaiah 43:18-19
“But forget all that—it is nothing compared to what I am going to do. For I am about to do something new.See, I have already begun! Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the wilderness. I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.”
Glory, Grub & Grind 
Love the hair. I think it makes you look more alive and welcoming….and that’s good/
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Thank you for supporting my blog Pastor Rena! Means a lot to me and thanks for the compliment! 😁
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Thanks for sharing your hair story! I’m blessed by having read it. What blessed me most is that you “WROTE” …never stop writing! You’ll never know who’s reading and who’s life you will impact; just by simply being you!
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Thank you for encouraging me to write! I have a lot to say but don’t take time to write and want to more this month!
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I know this was hard for you so KUDOS to you for taking this leap! You looked wonderful before and wonderful after.
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Thanks so much!!
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Dora the Explorer! You are a RIOT! You look beautiful, I am so proud of you ❤ I loved your hair, but I love you more 😉
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Lol thank you Ali! Love you!
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Hey Evelyn!
“Letting go, The Process” was such an on time read for me. Thanks for speaking on this!
My favorite takeaways:
– “I’m not my hair and my hair is not me.”
– “My hair is part of my reputation, but it’s not what makes me.”
– “When people change, we can get caught off guard and it can take time for us to adjust to their change.”
– “Whenever we hold on to something with our dear life, and even get offended when asked to let go, it’s too much and possibly even an idol.”
I look forward to more of your post!! Absolutely love you, your heart and your blog! ❤
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Janelle! Your amazing woman! Thank you for following and supporting my blog!
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Hi
Was just thinkinh about you yeserday and wondered when you would post again. 🙂
Love the new look!!! I can totally see you walking in a deeper freedom from the moment I saw you a couple weeks ago worshipping church. It made my eyes watery, it was so beautiful!
This post reminded me of a song called “I am not my hair” by India Arie
Love ya and your heart.
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Thank you and love you! Thank you for following my blog and being so supportive of my life!
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Wish I could edit my first post! Sorry about all the typos. My phone is wacky.
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Promise I’m not the one checking errors, I have my own editor since I’m not the best at writing myself lol
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I celebrate you my friend. Thank you for your bravery, being a woman who fears the Lord, and being bold to share with us this recent process.
You may not have gone into it too much, but during great transitions it’s always interesting to hear how people will share their opinion without provoke. One thing I really appreciate about you, Evelyn, is that you have a mind of your own, but don’t always feel the need to share the minute you have an opinion about something, You give people the space to invite you in to share. I want to be more like you when I grow up.
Although, it was hard to let your hair go through change, it was only the physical manifestation of the beautiful pruning the Lord has done in your heart. “He died so that He could give the church to Himself like a bride in all her beauty.”
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So love you woman! Thank you!
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I love this. I can completely relate to all this. The hair comments…. omg lol. Ive heard quite a few growing up. Which is the reason why my hair is always up. I have to say you look fabulous with the new cut. You can see the freedom coming off you. Its silly the things that we turn into idols. Even without realizing that we are doing it. This blog got to me in the time I needed it. Letting go of something you heald on to for so long is so hard but im ready for something new and refreshing. Thank you for posting!!!
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Thanks love! Yes Mary! Today is the first day of the second half of the year and God is up to some amazing things this month! Whatever you feel called to let go of, do it! Something better will come! Whoot whoot!
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I love you so much, Evelinda!
You are absolutely on point about this matter! And as a hair stylist I appreciate this even more. Because some women with long hair only have it to please others or to hide there insecurities.
And that’s one of reasons why I decided to cut my hair .
#1 new mom 😂
#2 sick of boring hair 😂
#3 I wanted to look like a stylist 😂
And the list goes on😂
And yes you look younger, free, and playful😂
I LoVeyou!
Ps.Keep blogging
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